5 years ago, if you had asked me where I’d be in life, here’s what I’d tell you…

At age 25, I expected to be in a serious relationship and have a large friend group to hang out every night. If I wasn’t working at my super awesome ministry job, I’d be hanging out with dozens of friends at cool bars, hosting game nights, or chilling with my boyfriend/fiancé/husband.

I thought I would have my life together and wrapped up in a nice, neat bow.

Guess what?

None of that is true.

I’m not in a relationship.

I no longer work in ministry.

Cool bars aren’t my thing (unless it’s Carrigan’s), because I don’t like beer. My friend group is super small, and they don’t like playing board games or strategy games.

And you know what?

I’ve learned to be TOTALLY okay with that.

Because here’s what I’ve learned…

It’s okay to not have it all together.

It’s okay to be in process.

It’s okay for life to not look like you expected to look.

What matters is that you choose to enjoy and appreciate exactly where I’m at. Because I am exactly where I am supposed to be.

I get to work for myself in an amazing 2 bedroom apartment that overlooks the woods. I have a puppy who is currently wrestling with her doggy friend on my couch. I go to a great church, and have a few amazing friends who I get to see once or twice a week.

Do I sometimes miss the idea of working in youth ministry and having huge game nights and tons of friends and being “on” 24/7?


There’s plenty of nights when I’ll let myself cry over the reality that life isn’t what I expected or going how I planned. I let myself get angry about all the factors that played into me not having the life I expected.

Then I let go of the expectation, accept where I am, and get really grateful for being exactly where I am…

because the level of growth and depth of being I’ve experienced over the past year has far outweighed the life I “expected” I would have.

Friend, you are exactly where you are supposed to be.

Embrace the process.